Men are source of stress to women, as women are a source of stress to men too.
This was the conclusion met at a recent seminar I attended where stress management was a topic. Because the session was a small group, the speaker deemed it best that participants could learn very well thru an activity. The group was further divided into two - one group for the men and the other group for the women.
The activity was for each group to answer two questions - 1) What are the top main source of stress of your gender and how were you able to handle it? 2) What do you think are the main source of stress of the other gender and how do you think are they coping with it? No copying of answers from the other group, was the instruction.
Our group - the group of men listed the following key words as the source of stresses for men - finance, family, work, boss, and the opposite gender. It came out during the group discussion that "finance" is problem because aside from the reality that it is in the culture that fathers are looked up to as the supposed breadwinner, often it is the wife who controls the family purse thus it can happen that men lacks allowances for personal expenses. At work, there is that problem about women gossip. And according to some, a woman boss is difficult to get along with. Thus, the fifth listed source - opposite sex - didn't need further explanation. Among the listed coping mechanism (as far as I can remember listed) were drinking (alcoholic drinks), listening to music including those at a bar, increased physical activity such as jogging, beer, and more beer, and sauna massage (pronounced as sa una masahe.)
As to the second question, the group listed same keywords related to finance, family, work, boss, and men. "Finance" because women tend to spenders. "Family" because they are what culture dictates to be the carers. Work because they may not get along with coworkers and bosses, are talkers, among others. And "men" because as from their husband they expect the touch/sex but often none came. Their coping mechanism, the men group thought, were social media, gossip, nagging their husband, beautifying themselves.
When the output was presented to the entire, there were generally murmurs and cheers of agreement from the women.
It shows in the presentation that women listed too matters relating to finances, family, work, human relations, and the opposite gender as the source of stress for women and men. In the presentation, the women group leader expounded on some reality that some men as a coping mechanism have theirother women apart from their wife. But in turn this situation becomes a source of stress because aside from thinking about how to sustain financially the other woman, she is a stressor when time comes that she would give up on the relationship. The women group aside from discussing their point of view of what the men's group has already presented, added that as coping mechanism, attendance of both gender to sessions that discusses gender and gender differences. This would include retreats and marriage encounters or counselling seminars that are usually sponsored by religious or civil society organizations.
Later, it was synthesized that men and women can manage their stress if they recognize their differences including hormonal and emotional ones.
Indeed men and women can solve stress together when they put on the table their agenda for better understanding, and respect from and for both gender group.
The activity was for each group to answer two questions - 1) What are the top main source of stress of your gender and how were you able to handle it? 2) What do you think are the main source of stress of the other gender and how do you think are they coping with it? No copying of answers from the other group, was the instruction.
Our group - the group of men listed the following key words as the source of stresses for men - finance, family, work, boss, and the opposite gender. It came out during the group discussion that "finance" is problem because aside from the reality that it is in the culture that fathers are looked up to as the supposed breadwinner, often it is the wife who controls the family purse thus it can happen that men lacks allowances for personal expenses. At work, there is that problem about women gossip. And according to some, a woman boss is difficult to get along with. Thus, the fifth listed source - opposite sex - didn't need further explanation. Among the listed coping mechanism (as far as I can remember listed) were drinking (alcoholic drinks), listening to music including those at a bar, increased physical activity such as jogging, beer, and more beer, and sauna massage (pronounced as sa una masahe.)
As to the second question, the group listed same keywords related to finance, family, work, boss, and men. "Finance" because women tend to spenders. "Family" because they are what culture dictates to be the carers. Work because they may not get along with coworkers and bosses, are talkers, among others. And "men" because as from their husband they expect the touch/sex but often none came. Their coping mechanism, the men group thought, were social media, gossip, nagging their husband, beautifying themselves.
When the output was presented to the entire, there were generally murmurs and cheers of agreement from the women.
It shows in the presentation that women listed too matters relating to finances, family, work, human relations, and the opposite gender as the source of stress for women and men. In the presentation, the women group leader expounded on some reality that some men as a coping mechanism have theirother women apart from their wife. But in turn this situation becomes a source of stress because aside from thinking about how to sustain financially the other woman, she is a stressor when time comes that she would give up on the relationship. The women group aside from discussing their point of view of what the men's group has already presented, added that as coping mechanism, attendance of both gender to sessions that discusses gender and gender differences. This would include retreats and marriage encounters or counselling seminars that are usually sponsored by religious or civil society organizations.
Later, it was synthesized that men and women can manage their stress if they recognize their differences including hormonal and emotional ones.
Indeed men and women can solve stress together when they put on the table their agenda for better understanding, and respect from and for both gender group.
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